Don’t care – 12 Essential Steps to Stop Caring about what People think

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“कुछ तो लोग कहेंगें, लोगो का काम है कहना,”

Just don’t care—we all must have dealt with this or dealt with it every day; one can’t avoid it. If you are single, people will poke you for getting married; if you are married, they will poke you for having kids. When you become the parent of a girl child, they will keep asking you when you are planning a second one, and vice versa. They will interfere in every little thing, like which school your kid should go to or whether the dress you are wearing is appropriate or whether you should not behave in a particular manner, because they feel it’s their right to correct us or force what they believe.

These people also have a preconceived notion that the advice they are giving us is the best for our future, as if what they say is approved by the Supreme Court of India. I feel pity on such people because they are so fixed in their mindset that they can’t digest anything happening that is not part of their “how to live your life” ideology. At times I feel like telling them, “Who are you to ask me this or force me to live in a certain manner?” If you are so concerned, why don’t you pay my house expenses?” Because I would rather listen to those who are actually concerned about my well-being and just don’t care about people who aren’t me.


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But can we really do anything about it?

The answer is no. We can’t change anyone. But the problem arises if we start getting affected by what people say to us. If you are worrying too much, it’s going to be difficult for you to survive. I am going to share a few steps that will help you stop worrying about what people have to say:

1. Focus on what you want and don’t care about what others have to say:

What matters most in life is what you want—what you truly care about—what makes you happy. Focus on your targets and work hard to achieve them. You are not sitting here to prove yourself to anyone. The focus has to be crystal clear.

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2. They say, based on their experience:

Just remember one thing: someone else’s experience in the past, can’t decide your future. At times, people say things because they had a bitter experience in the same scenario. But how does it matter? Their opinion is based on their belief system. What’s good for them can’t be good for you, or vice versa. Do things from your perspective.

3. People have a habit of saying things at random or out of insecurity.

On many occasions, I have noticed people saying things because they have to say something or other and can’t put a full stop. People actually don’t care. They are thinking about themselves, not you. A friend’s neighbor will always taunt her for wearing shorts. Later, my friend got to know that her neighbor was never allowed to wear a short dress when she was a kid herself, so now she dislikes anyone wearing a short dress because she still has that anger inside. People have their own insecurities, so just don’t care about what they have to say, just don’t care.

4. You are the best judge you have ever met.

People have opinions about you but don’t care because you know what’s best for you, as you are in that situation and not them. Nobody is in your shoes, so they will never know. The best thing you can do is learn from your mistakes and move on.

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5. Mind your own business and don’t care about other people:

People frequently ask me when you are getting married; the questions vary, but the nagging continues. I really sometimes want to ask them back, “What are you doing about your kid who doesn’t study and abuses?” or “How is your extramarital life going on?” What are you doing about your fat body? Then I will appear as a rude person. Why can’t they mind their own business? They won’t, so stop caring about them and just don’t care.

6. Stop asking for an opinion in every trivial matter and don’t care about what they have to say:

Nobody should validate how you should look, whether what you are doing is correct, or what they think of you. You need to have confidence in your choices and your decisions.

7. Don’t be too sensitive and don’t care :

Are you over sensitive? Do you get affected by things people say which are not even true? If you fall under this category then only god can save you because being too sensitive will hurt you all the time and you will be a victim of people’s opinion about you. Learn to love and accept yourself; stop thinking about people because end of the day it’s you who will be hurt and not them.

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8. Overthinking is harmful to your health:

Overthinking is harmful and it affects our health. It leads to anxiety, stress, severe depression, indigestion, headaches, and many other internal and external issues. If we keep thinking about people and their opinions about us, we can never live peacefully. We keep wondering why they said that and why they have this notion about me, and the mind starts making stories out of nowhere. Excessive thinking can hinder your growth and mess with your mental health.

9. Don’t be a people-pleaser:

Don’t be someone who feels obligated to say no to people. Saying yes all the time is a bad sign. It shows either you want to please the person or want to look good, but deep down there is a lot of discomfort in the heart. Remember one thing: You can’t please them all. Such a category appears to be the nicest people, but often people take advantage of them. Learn to say no and just don’t care.

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10. Take constructive feedback:

Always be open for feedback which is essential for your growth. Don’t react too fast, listen carefully and patiently. Listen to understand and don’t listen to react. Many people get offended by criticism but it will only help you to flourish in life. Be thankful to the person who has criticized you and has opened a new door of opportunity.

11. Life is too short so just don’t care about people:

Steps to stop caring about what people think: Do you really think we have time to care about what people have to say? Life is too short to waste on someone else’s judgement about you. There are many more productive things to do than think about irrelevant issues and people. Life is precious, and what matters is the day spent with happiness, which gives us hope that tomorrow never dies.

12. Be with positive people:

Surround yourself with positive people. Be with people who won’t tear you apart or try to control you. They are the ones who will understand your situation rather than nag you. They will provide you with a solution and not keep bickering about it. People with a positive attitude will bring out the best in you and won’t make you worthless. People have a huge impact on your life.


Last but not the least
“दुनिया का सबसे बड़ा रोग, क्या कहेंगे लोग।“


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