3 Things you should never Teach your Boys

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Parenting is a full time job and the hardest role to play on planet earth. Every parent try to give their child the best life but there are certain things which require utmost attention in dealing with child of either gender. Even your perfect decision for your child can go wrong. Most of the time there is a disparity in raising a boy or a girl which a parent doesn’t do intentionally but out of habit or following norms set by the society. There are few things you should never teach your boys:



1.Boys don’t cry:

I sometimes fail to understand why on earth anyone will teach their boys not to cry. Why there is a gender bias when it comes to crying? Why there is masculinity rooted towards the idea that real men don’t cry? Why they should fake as if nothing happened? Why only girls should cry? Why people say “RONA LADKIYON KAA KAAM HAI” I feel ideally no one should cry and waste their tears. But we all are human with loads of emotions, love, affection, care, concern.



Crying is a natural phenomenon. This is injected in a boy at a very young that if he will cry, he will be considered as weak in front of the society. It’s a sign of failure. Tears are only for girls. This is actually going to hide their real personality and they will always be confused about how they feel and how they should act.  As they grow, this is going to construct a wall between their real emotions and a fear of being judged by the other people.

By saying stuff like, “Don’t act like a girl” or “Be a man” parents are widening the gap between males and females, in another words it’s like telling a boy you are braver, confident and strong than a girl therefore don’t act in a manner which is feminine.



Holding back your emotions has more side effects than pouring them out. When a man is depressed or dealing with a big problem, he tends to cut himself from the rest of the world. Instead of asking for help, he goes in a shelter and suffers alone.

2. Not teaching them household chores:

There is a mindset that household chores are for girls and it’s their responsibility to clean the house, serve the guests, help mom in the kitchen, mopping etc. It is the societal force which is imbibed in your head since beginning therefore girls is expected to do more work at home. Boys as they grow up start believing the same.

Most of the time the way parents behave with their children is unintentional and there is an unconscious gender bias. All because of their upbringing and predefined norms. There is an expectation that girls should behave in a certain manner and same goes for the boy. This practice sends a message that house work is a girl’s work and boys should be dependent on them for their chores as well.



Both should have equal share of responsibility towards their household chores. Boys should also be involved in housework at an early age. There should not be any disparity between girls and boys. Change this mindset which is going on from generations to generations.

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3. Teaching them to be emotionally tough:

If you also agree to same, high time you should change your mindset and approach. Once the boy reaches teenage, most parents stop hugging them whereas when a girl child is upset they welcome her with open arms irrespective of her age. Every child goes through various emotions like hatred, anger, fear, shame, happiness, insecurity but when it comes to boy we expect them to be emotionally tough.

Many couples face this problem that their husband or boyfriend sometimes don’t react or remain blank in a given circumstance where there is immense pain or grief or loss. Many occasions they will hide their feelings and the suppression will come out as anger or loneliness.

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You child deserves a warm hug be it a male or a female. It’s important for them to know assurance, love, hug, sharing won’t make them weak. This is going to make them an empathetic and compassionate person.

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