Extra marital affairs have become very common these days. Irrespective of their background or socioeconomic differences people are falling out of their marriage and falling for infidelity. Some people address it as cheating and for many it is just a casual fling. There can be innumerable reason for the same but the effects of extra marital affairs can be devastating and lead to divorce. So before entering into it, just ask yourself is it worth enough to sacrifice your marriage for a extra marital affairs or relationship which is mere time pass or temporary?
Let’s see some of the reasons behind extra marital affairs:
1.Unhealthy relationships:
Continuous bickering at home related to trivial matters. Lack of agreement to resolve problems, poor understanding level, and acceptance of each other the way they are can be a major cause for unhealthy relationships. A relationship should provide some kind of solace to maintain healthy relationship in the four walls.
Understand one thing, no two people are same, there will be difference of opinion and solution. But fighting over them all the time is very damaging and can lead to an extra marital affair. It’s better to accept each other and ignore few things which can destroy the environment at home.
2. Lack of time and communication:
Both the couples are working and share the financial responsibilities. There is lot of pressure these days at work and maximum time is spent at office. This can draw any of the partners towards extra marital affairs. There is an emotional disconnect as they don’t spend time together, talk anymore, travel, and express their feelings.
Everyone needs love, care and attention and this lack of time and communication can draw the partner to someone else. This emotional bond leads to extramarital affairs. A relationship demands time and energy therefore to work your marriage focus on spending time and communicate more.
3. Parenthood:
When a couple become parents lot of things change. The time they use to spend together gets reduced. The child becomes the utmost priority which I am not saying is incorrect. But this makes a man feel unwanted at home and lost to an extent that he starts looking for that importance somewhere else. It’s better to discuss this with your partner, if you are feeling lost before it gets too late.
4. Forced marriage is an important reason for extra marital affairs.
On many occasions I have witness people saying that their parents forced them in to getting married to their spouse. Once they are married, they start realizing the mistake they have done but can’t change anything about it. If they find someone more attractive than the spouse the extra marital affairs start. Forcing your kids to get married out of societal norms is not justified.
5. Adding spice to their life:
Some people do flirting or fall for casual relationships just for the sake of adding fun. It is more about their own characteristics rather than any boredom in the relationship with the spouse. Before marriage also they may have multiple relationships simultaneously, therefore it’s their habit to stray outside the marriage. There is a saying, once a cheater, always a cheater.
6. Lack of appreciation:
Everyone needs appreciation, kind words, and worthiness in their surroundings. But when the feeling of neglect and undervalue hits the spouse, this can lead to extra marital affairs. Sometimes people accept too much and expect their partner to behave in a certain manner; the feeling of neglect can be their unrealistic expectations from their married life. Let’s say if you are genuinely feeling this, it’s better to share with your partner and sort it out.
7. Lack of excitement:
A routine life can cause boredom in the personal life. To spice up the life add some excitement by making a travel plan alone leaving kids to the grandparents, doing some outdoor activities together like running, joining a gym, clubbing. When a spouse starts getting sucked in the routine because of boredom, the desire to find a new love increases. This increase the chance of extra marital affairs.
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8. Dissatisfaction in sexual life:
Everyone has a different urge when it comes to sexual pleasure. They want to experience more sex in their life and physical pleasure. This can also lead to extra marital affairs if your current partner doesn’t match your sexual desire.
9. Falling back on past lover:
When any of the spouses was in relationship before marriage and due to some reasons they couldn’t get married, they could be still in love. Even a little problem in the marriage can take them backward to their lover. Reconciliation with the spouse gets more difficult because every little problem they start comparing and keep thinking about going to their past lover.
10. Distraction:
Distraction due to getting over exposure from magazines, internet, surroundings, people tend to overlook what they have and start looking for other options and live in their imaginary world.
I want to ask one question, what if your partner does the same cheats you the way you are doing, how will you feel? When you also believe in love then why starting an extra marital affair? Can’t you control your urge or go to therapist before entering into infidelity? Once you start there is no end to it. Think about it.
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